Shiv Khera, popular motivational speaker and best selling author of books like “You Can Win” and “Living With Honour”, held the audience captive with his charm and eloquence at the launch of his latest offering “You Can Achieve More: Live by Design, Not by Default” (Bloomsbury) at New Delhi’s NCUI auditorium, recently. His new book, which is a result of “15 years of hard labour,” is purposed to serve as a blueprint to unlock the limitless potential that resides within each individual regardless of intelligence, education or skill. Through an engaging and thought provoking speech, he gave an overview of what he wished to convey through his work.
As the title of the book suggests, he urged readers to “live by design and not by default”. According to Khera, individuals who live by design, lead a life filled with happiness and well being by taking control of their own circumstances. On the other hand a life lived by default is marred with guilt, remorse and resentment. “A person with a positive attitude cannot be stopped and a person with a negative attitude cannot be helped, therefore to change the reality we should first change our mentality.”
He laid special emphasis on five types of strengths that are essential for attaining and sustaining success, namely – physical, financial, mental, emotional and spiritual. Khera elaborated upon each strength. First of all, he said that a healthy body is a necessary prerequisite for all our endeavours in life thus physical strength is something that should never be ignored. Financial strength pertains to wealth and financial security, and contrary to the general understanding that money can’t buy happiness. He asserted that money earned through fair means did, in fact, brought happiness. “Mental strength and fortitude keeps us from drowning in the tides of hardships and when it comes to emotional strength, relationships are of prime importance. A person who lacks healthy relationships is emotionally bankrupt and such an emotionally unstable person is never to be trusted.” Lastly, he said, spiritual strength was something that provided us a moral compass and a strong value system that always kept us on track.
Delving deeper into his thesis, Khera mentioned that in this fast moving world, technology and most importantly ideas were getting obsolete almost on a daily basis. “This can either be seen as a problem or an opportunity that can be exploited. Even in this era of rapid transitions, people skills, persuasion skills and skills of prioritisation hold their ground as immovable constants and the one who masters them is destined to great achievements in life.”